Why Healing Is So Important (And Why Avoiding It Is Gonna Cost You)

Let me be real with you from the start:

Healing is not aesthetic. It’s not bath bombs and soft playlists. It’s not journaling in cursive on gold-foiled pages (even though we adore those too). It’s not burning sage once and suddenly becoming whole. It’s not wearing crystals while dodging your feelings and calling it alignment.

Healing is work. Holy, gritty, gut-wrenching work. And it matters, because avoiding it? Will cost you more than comfort ever gave you.

Let’s talk about it.

1. Unhealed pain is never passive, it performs.

It doesn’t sit quietly in the past. It leaks. It lingers. It leads.

It slides into your relationships wearing a mask. It sounds like “I’m just private” when really, you’re terrified of being seen. It shows up in your “no worries, it’s fine” text—while your jaw clenches and your chest tightens. It throws tantrums when your boss gives you feedback because a part of you still feels nine and unworthy. It makes a home in your reactions, your silence, your overthinking, your exhaustion.

And let’s be honest: You’re not tired because you’re busy. You’re tired because your unhealed self is running a marathon just to keep up with the healed version of you.

2. Healing helps you stop designing your life around your wounds.

Sit with that.

So many of us aren’t living, we’re protecting. Crafting entire lives to avoid the same pain that already happened. We isolate to outrun rejection. We don’t speak up because someone once taught us our voice didn’t matter. We don’t try, because the sting of failure still echoes. We become hyper-independent because needing someone once broke us.

But healing says: “My pain will not be the blueprint for my personality.”

“My past is not my prison.”

3. Avoiding healing is more expensive than you think.

Unhealed people:

• Sabotage the very relationships they begged God for.

• Confuse chaos for normal because peace feels foreign.

• Stay faithful to dysfunction because it feels like home.

• Call burnout ambition.

• Buy clothes, trips, and distractions when what they really need is rest and release.

And listen, I’ve done both. One gave me a new wardrobe. The other gave me my life back.

4. Healing makes space for your truest self.

It clears the clutter. It lifts the fog. It makes room for the version of you you’ve been aching to meet: The joyful you. The unapologetic you. The soft, radiant, grounded, goofy, magnetic, worthy without earning it version of you.

She isn’t buried under your productivity. She’s buried under your pain. And healing is how you dig her out.

5. You don’t have to do it all today, but you do have to begin.

One honest moment. One shaky truth. One “I’m not okay.” One pause where you don’t numb the trigger, but sit with it and ask, “What are you here to teach me?”

Healing isn’t an event. It’s a series of choices. A thousand micro-moments where you choose yourself over your survival patterns.

So no, healing isn’t cute. But it’s sacred. It’s liberating. And it’s how you come back home to yourself. Retreat. It’s a life long rhythm of choosing wholeness over hiding.

If you’ve ever:

• Blocked someone mid-worship while Kirk Franklin was still shouting “Revolution!”

• Cried at a dog food commercial and said, “I’m just tired,” but really it was the existential dread

• Got irrationally mad at someone’s IG caption and told yourself, “It’s not jealousy, it’s just… vibes”

• Meditated for five minutes, felt like a guru… and then cussed somebody out in traffic five minutes later

• Rolled your eyes at the cashier in the grocery store who was taking forever to scan your groceries

  
  

Congratulations. You are, in fact, on the healing journey.

That beautiful, awkward, emotionally spicy path where your shadow self still has opinions and your higher self is just trying to breathe through it.

Listen, you don’t have to be perfect. You just have to be present. You don’t need incense and enlightenment. You just need to pause before sending that 7-paragraph text.

Healing isn’t linear. It’s more like a sitcom reboot: familiar characters, new plot twists, slightly better decisions.

So next time you catch yourself spiraling and lighting a candle at the same time? Just remember: This is what growth looks like. Messy. Moody. But moving forward.

Healing isn’t just an option, it’s a birthright.Because you matter.Your inner peace is not a luxury; it is a necessity.Your gentleness is not weakness; it is a strength that deserves to breathe.

Your story, in all its raw and unfiltered truth, is already worthy. You do not need to shrink, revise, or censor your past to be valuable.And hear this:Your future is not obligated to echo the pain of your history.

If no one has ever whispered this to your spirit, let me be the first:You have permission to heal.And you never have to walk that path alone.

Stay with The Brook. Let it guide you. Let it soften you. Let it move you. layer by sacred layer.

Your healing matters because you matter.And every version of you is worth the journey.

With grace, truth, and a heart that’s healing too one layer at a time.

With peace, hope and joy on repeat!

-Yahminah